What is Emotional Resilience?

6 June 2023by crbwebsite0

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9 Signs of Emotional Resilience

What is emotional resilience? It is your ability to respond to stressful or unexpected situations.

It is being able to ‘bounce back’ and keep going, during difficult times.

Life is often unexpected and stressful, but having emotional resilience helps to face these challenges, and keep moving on.

9 Signs of Emotional Resilience:

1. Being Self Aware

Self Awareness is knowing and understanding yourself. Your thoughts, feelings, emotions, strengths & weaknesses. It helps you make better choices and become the best version of yourself. It helps you to understand others and also how other people understand you.

2. Will ask for help

Asking for help shows strength to seek support when facing a challenge. It is empowers you to learn, grow and develop new skills. It also means you are not facing everything alone. Offering the chance to experience strength from your vulnerability.

3. Optimistic attitude

This outlook allows you to see setbacks as temporary and as learning opportunities. It helps you to maintain hope, find solutions, keep persevering and bounce back stronger. Being able to stay positive helps you to remain calmer and think clearer.

4. Has an internal locus of evaluation

This is relying on your own opinions and beliefs to judge yourself, rather than relying on what others think of you. You value your own thoughts and feelings above seeking approval or validation from others.

5. Maintains a sense of humour and can laugh at yourself

Laughing reduces stress. It helps find the silver linings and joy in tough situations. Being able to laugh helps maintain a positive perspective which helps with being able to bounce back.

6. Flexible

Being flexible means you can adapt to change. You can see setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning.

7. Positive support network

Supportive relationships that cheer you on offers a sense of connection and belonging. Having encouragement, understanding and empathy helps to cope with challenges and reduce stress.

8. Practices self care

Looking after yourself prioritises mental and emotional well being. This reduces stress, increases relaxation and boosts self esteem. The more you practice, the greater your self awareness becomes.

9. Can maintain perspective

Seeing situations and challenges in a broader context means they don’t become overblown. This reduces overthinking and helps to move onto other things.

What its not

Emotional resilience doesn’t mean

“Not Feeling”

Numbing or cutting off your feelings makes you more vulnerable.

It’s about experiencing the stress, sadness, pain and difficulties in life. Then being able to ‘bounce back’ and move on.

It absolutely still hurts, but developing emotional resilience means you can adapt and keep going.


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About the author: Chris Boobier is the owner of CRB Counselling specialising in anxiety, trauma, Bereavement & loss. Supporting adults and adolescents, she is passionate about helping people be their authentic self through counselling.


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