The Loss No One Talks About If you have never met your father, there is a good chance you have spent years trying to convince yourself it does not really affect you. You may have told yourself “I never knew him, so how can I miss him?”“It’s just normal to me.”“I don’t think it bothers...
Same House, Different Childhoods If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, its very likely you also experienced sibling trauma. You may look at your siblings as an adult and wonder How did we grow up in the same house and become so disconnected? Why is there so little empathy between us? Why does...
Enmeshment in relationships is when your boundaries and someone else’s boundaries become blurred. On the surface, it can look like love, loyalty, or closeness. However, underneath, you often feel guilt, pressure, and a quiet loss of who you are. In healthy relationships, you can be close to someone and still be yourself. In enmeshed relationships,...
How It Helps or Hurts Humans naturally focus on potential threats. Psychologists call this the negativity bias, meaning negative events affect our emotions, decisions, and memories more than positive ones. Evolutionarily, this made sense – our ancestors needed to pay attention to rustling bushes or other dangers to survive. Research confirms this tendency. Baumeister...
Emotional Immaturity Do you ever feel like a child in an adult’s body? Like a younger version of you is sometimes in charge or ‘in the drivers seat’. If so, this may be a sign of emotional immaturity. Emotional immaturity occurs when emotional growth is delayed, leaving parts of you stuck in childhood. You may...
Train your brain Feeling overwhelmed or anxious can make your heart race, tighten your chest, and send your thoughts spiralling. In those moments, your body acts like you’re in danger – even when you’re not. That’s where the power of the breath comes in. How deep breathing calms anxiety is both simple and effective;...
And its not that you are doing it wrong You finally get a quiet moment. No deadlines. No emails. No one needs anything from you. And instead of peace? You feel unsettled. Maybe even anxious. Resting makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong. But you’re not. The truth why you can’t relax is because...
Why its so hard to open up Do you find you can’t talk about feelings? You’d think saying how we feel would come easily. It’s us, after all. Our story, body and thoughts. But no. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I don’t even know how to talk about it.” And...
How to Reconnect with Your Emotions Feeling emotionally numb—like you’re disconnected from yourself and the world—is more common than you might think. In fact, many people experience this at some point in their lives. It’s often a defense mechanism your brain uses to protect you from overwhelming feelings. While this response can help you survive...
Navigating Rupture & Repair The world in 2024 is fast. There is never enough time. Relationship breakdown can be swift, instantly blocked or ghosted. Or a slow, drawn out, breakdown with much pain. Either way its tempting to avoid conflict rather than confront it. Conflict can feel scary, or outside your control. However it’s...