You Might Not Recognise If you’ve searched for signs of childhood trauma in adults, you might expect to read about flashbacks, nightmares or obvious distress. However, childhood trauma in adults can show up in much quieter ways. You might notice it in your friendships, your relationships, your reactions to kindness, or the way you constantly...
The Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect If you’ve ever asked yourself why do I feel so ashamed of myself, you’re certainly not alone. In fact, it’s one of the questions I hear most often, even if people don’t use those exact words. Instead, they might say they never feel good enough, they constantly worry about...
Understanding the Loss of Self Have you ever asked yourself, “Why do I feel like I don’t know who I am?”. You may be very capable, successful, and responsible on the outside. Yet inside, you can feel disconnected from your own needs, emotions, and sense of identity. Like you have a ‘blind spot’ when...
Why your mind gets stuck and what helps Have you ever found yourself replaying the same thoughts, or a conversation, analysing a mistake, or lying awake at night going over the same worry for the hundredth time? If so, you’re not alone. Its easy to feel trapped in a cycle of overthinking. While it may...
The Loss No One Talks About If you have never met your father, there is a good chance you have spent years trying to convince yourself it does not really affect you. You may have told yourself “I never knew him, so how can I miss him?”“It’s just normal to me.”“I don’t think it bothers...
Same House, Different Childhoods If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, its very likely you also experienced sibling trauma. You may look at your siblings as an adult and wonder How did we grow up in the same house and become so disconnected? Why is there so little empathy between us? Why does...
Enmeshment in relationships is when your boundaries and someone else’s boundaries become blurred. On the surface, it can look like love, loyalty, or closeness. However, underneath, you often feel guilt, pressure, and a quiet loss of who you are. In healthy relationships, you can be close to someone and still be yourself. In enmeshed relationships,...
How It Helps or Hurts Humans naturally focus on potential threats. Psychologists call this the negativity bias, meaning negative events affect our emotions, decisions, and memories more than positive ones. Evolutionarily, this made sense – our ancestors needed to pay attention to rustling bushes or other dangers to survive. Research confirms this tendency. Baumeister...
Emotional Immaturity Do you ever feel like a child in an adult’s body? Like a younger version of you is sometimes in charge or ‘in the drivers seat’. If so, this may be a sign of emotional immaturity. Emotional immaturity occurs when emotional growth is delayed, leaving parts of you stuck in childhood. You may...
Train your brain Feeling overwhelmed or anxious can make your heart race, tighten your chest, and send your thoughts spiralling. In those moments, your body acts like you’re in danger – even when you’re not. That’s where the power of the breath comes in. How deep breathing calms anxiety is both simple and effective;...