And its not that you are doing it wrong You finally get a quiet moment. No deadlines. No emails. No one needs anything from you. And instead of peace? You feel unsettled. Maybe even anxious. Resting makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong. But you’re not. The truth why you can’t relax is because...
Why its so hard to open up Do you find you can’t talk about feelings? You’d think saying how we feel would come easily. It’s us, after all. Our story, body and thoughts. But no. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I don’t even know how to talk about it.” And...
How to Reconnect with Your Emotions Feeling emotionally numb—like you’re disconnected from yourself and the world—is more common than you might think. In fact, many people experience this at some point in their lives. It’s often a defense mechanism your brain uses to protect you from overwhelming feelings. While this response can help you survive...
What Is Personal Power? Personal power is quiet confidence and inner strength. It helps you navigate life being genuine and truthful, with influence, and self-respect. However, it’s not about controlling others, forcing outcomes, or manipulating situations. Instead, it means leading with integrity, inspiring others, and making choices that align with your values. Ultimately, true personal...
The Ghost of Christmas Past What’s always coming at the same time every year? Christmas! And if you grew up in a dysfunctional family, navigating the Christmas season can feel complicated. The build-up creates expectations of a warm, joyful, and loving time with family. An idealized version of the holiday that seems to be a...
Navigating Rupture & Repair The world in 2024 is fast. There is never enough time. Relationship breakdown can be swift, instantly blocked or ghosted. Or a slow, drawn out, breakdown with much pain. Either way its tempting to avoid conflict rather than confront it. Conflict can feel scary, or outside your control. However it’s...
Anticipatory Anxiety Stress is a normal necessary part of life. You can’t find your car keys, get stuck in traffic, or wait for an important call or text. Will cause some stress but usually manageable and will easily decline. If you are going through ‘something’ (e.g divorce, redundancy, bereavement etc) stress levels will...
The Pain of Parentification As a child, you were growing up too soon if you experienced: Being the peacekeeper and mediating conflict with adults around you Raising siblings Keeping the entire house clean, doing the washing, cooking, ironing, shopping “Stepping up” to take the place of an absent parent Keeping dangerous secrets for a loved...
Anxiety feels horrible. It can be mentally and physically all consuming. You may not want to show others your anxiety, so you desperately try to hide your feelings or shut them down. Brave face it – which can feel even worse. So an obvious solution would be to avoid situations that cause you to feel...
What to Expect It may have been months, it may have been years. But on average it can take up to 12 months for someone to eventually see a counsellor. It is a big deal, and even after all these years I don’t take it lightly when people get in touch with me. So...