Enmeshment in relationships is when your boundaries and someone else’s boundaries become blurred. On the surface, it can look like love, loyalty, or closeness. However, underneath, you often feel guilt, pressure, and a quiet loss of who you are. In healthy relationships, you can be close to someone and still be yourself. In enmeshed relationships,...
How It Helps or Hurts Humans naturally focus on potential threats. Psychologists call this the negativity bias, meaning negative events affect our emotions, decisions, and memories more than positive ones. Evolutionarily, this made sense – our ancestors needed to pay attention to rustling bushes or other dangers to survive. Research confirms this tendency. Baumeister...
Emotional Immaturity Do you feel like a child in an adult’s body? If so, this may be a sign of emotional immaturity. Emotional immaturity occurs when emotional growth is delayed, leaving parts of you stuck in childhood. You may appear mature; however, inside, you often feel inexperienced, vulnerable, or unsure. Emotional immaturity is commonly linked...
Train your brain Feeling overwhelmed or anxious can make your heart race, tighten your chest, and send your thoughts spiralling. In those moments, your body acts like you’re in danger – even when you’re not. That’s where the power of the breath comes in. How deep breathing calms anxiety is both simple and effective;...
And its not that you are doing it wrong You finally get a quiet moment. No deadlines. No emails. No one needs anything from you. And instead of peace? You feel unsettled. Maybe even anxious. Resting makes you feel like you’re doing something wrong. But you’re not. The truth why you can’t relax is because...
Why its so hard to open up Do you find you can’t talk about feelings? You’d think saying how we feel would come easily. It’s us, after all. Our story, body and thoughts. But no. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “I don’t even know how to talk about it.” And...
How to Reconnect with Your Emotions Feeling emotionally numb—like you’re disconnected from yourself and the world—is more common than you might think. In fact, many people experience this at some point in their lives. It’s often a defense mechanism your brain uses to protect you from overwhelming feelings. While this response can help you survive...
What Is Personal Power? Personal power is quiet confidence and inner strength. It helps you navigate life being genuine and truthful, with influence, and self-respect. However, it’s not about controlling others, forcing outcomes, or manipulating situations. Instead, it means leading with integrity, inspiring others, and making choices that align with your values. Ultimately, true personal...
The Ghost of Christmas Past What’s always coming at the same time every year? Christmas! And if you grew up in a dysfunctional family, navigating the Christmas season can feel complicated. The build-up creates expectations of a warm, joyful, and loving time with family. An idealized version of the holiday that seems to be a...
Navigating Rupture & Repair The world in 2024 is fast. There is never enough time. Relationship breakdown can be swift, instantly blocked or ghosted. Or a slow, drawn out, breakdown with much pain. Either way its tempting to avoid conflict rather than confront it. Conflict can feel scary, or outside your control. However it’s...